I’m 53 and discovering that true freedom in life can involve crushed dreams. Allow me to demonstrate. This morning I was minding my own business, walking home from a personal training appointment. I’m a bit out of shape and trying… Read More »How Crushed Dreams Gave Me Profound Mid-Life Freedom
The grass is always greener on the other side. This is more than a colloquialism. The common phrase, when lived out daily, can ruin your actual life, leaving you to live a life of quiet desperation. Here’s a thought: Stop… Read More »3 Steps to Overcome Grass is Greener Syndrome and Engage your Real Life
If I had an accountability coach, would that help me stick with a weight loss plan? Theoretically, yes. Accountability coaches can be extraordinarily helpful. But, for me, hiring one at this point seems counterproductive. Why? Because an accountability coach cannot… Read More »Do I Need an Accountability Coach? Or is Self-Respect Enough?
Yes, you are getting in your own way. It’s called self-sabotage. Stopping the madness is easy. Stop doing what hurts you Start doing what helps you As simple as these two rules are, you may not feel able to follow… Read More »Getting out of your own way is easy but you don’t really want to
I know you had a difficult childhood. And your marriage and divorce, custody battle, estrangement from your kids, toxic ex-wife, belligerent step-son…none of that is easy. It’s been hard on you. But are you really giving up on yourself? You… Read More »Are you really giving up on yourself?
My passive-aggressive behavior shows up when I agree to things and then don’t follow through. It goes like this: Other: Will you do this? Me: Yes Other: Ok thanks! Me: I am still going to do whatever I feel like… Read More »The Inner Conflict that Creates Passive-Aggressive Behavior
When your health is pretty far gone (way overweight, with various and sundry symptoms of god knows what) there may be hope if you make health your number one priority in life. Let’s discuss how to make health #1. What… Read More »How to Make Health the Number One Priority in Life
An anxious-attachment type approaches her avoidant partner. The anxious attachment type is there to have a heart-to-heart about boundaries. Boundaries. Separation. Let’s talk, shall we? The deviant avoidant attachment type is ready and attentive. Let’s do this! The anxious attachment… Read More »If you only knew what devious avoidants do to anxious attachment types
Every family has a style, a story that justifies its existence. Some families are intellectual. Others are tough, hard-working, or rooted in a specific cluster of beliefs. Every family is a tribe with its own story. Family members are expected… Read More »Do you want something that conflicts with your family story?